A Mistress in the art of Strap-on...

Updated: May 20

Warning: contains graphic script, very graphic.



Buckle up sub, you're in for a wet 'n' wild ride.


The strap-on, it's still such a taboo topic even for well-experienced kinksters. Despite being one of the largest search results on porn sites, many have reservations about trying it. But before we get to the why, let's look at what a strap on even is. Traditionally a dildo hooked into a harness around the waist, the strap on allows for people to have penetrative sex in ways they really couldn't without it, such as woman to woman, woman to man and even double penetration from a man (or a woman with two dildos on, but we'll keep it simple for today's purposes!). To make it even more mind boggling, a strap-on doesn't need to be strapped to the waist. In today's market, there are straps that can be attached to just about any body part; want to be fucked by a thigh? A head? A foot? You got it.


For the purpose of this blog, I will be referring to a standard waist strap, being used by me to submissive males within anal sex during a professional domination session. So now we know the what and where, let's look at the how.


As an experienced practitioner of the strap-on, amongst other anal play activities, I genuinely believe every man could and should enjoy anal stimulation so long as it is carried out safely and at a pace that suits the receiver, both physically and emotionally.

An anus and rectum, not to mention the prostate, is absolutely covered in nerve endings which, when stimulated correctly, can evoke such a feeling of pleasure throughout the entire body. Believe it or not, creating an orgasm from anal stimulation is very possible and I have witnessed this first-hand, much to my absolute amazement. It should go without saying, but for those new to the BDSM scene, communication is key. Prior to a pegging session with a submissive, I will discuss their experience, their desires and their limits; ensuring I know exactly what they see for the session and do not push them past their solid limits. "Safe, sane and consensual", remember.


The first thing, before aaaannnnnyyyyyy strap-ons are whipped out, is to stimulate the anus gently and with plenty of lube. For me, this is with a gloved hand and for my sub to be in a relaxed position, usually lying on his back with legs bent; I have found this position to be the smoothest passage route and allows my sub to have some control over relaxing the opening to allow painless entry. At this point, some small toys can be introduced to help further the stimulation in preparation for a good old fuckening. I like to keep anal beads, plugs and love balls on hand for those willing to experiment. Not all of my subs enjoy the different sensations these toys bring, mind you, but it's always fun to discover what each of my subs enjoy and what they don't.


Once my sub feels relaxed and I can see he is ready for more, I strap up! Depending on previous experience and anatomy, I will select a suitably sized dildo, ranging from teeny-weeny-starter-size to almost as large as my forearm. Positioning of the sub is also crucial here and must be assessed in relation to the size of the dildo and his experience. For beginners, lying down missionary style is the way to go. For more experienced or adventurous subs, different positions can be attempted, such as: doggy; cowgirl and reverse cowgirl (or cowboy) with my favourite being a kneeling variation of reverse cowgirl that seems to hit the sweet spot every time.


If it's so enjoyable, why do many men recoil in horror at the thought of being pegged? The most common question I hear is "does this mean I am gay?!" No sweetie, no it does not. And even if it did prompt your curiosity in that direction, so what? The beauty of BDSM for me is that is exposes us, strips us back to our primary desires and takes us to places that we never thought possible.


"Does it hurt?", is another frequently asked question. If done incorrectly, yes, it will hurt like hell and you'll probably have a rectum tear. This, my friends, is why it is so so important to partake in this BDSM activity with someone you trust to be considerate and take it at a comfortable pace, or better yet, a professional Dominatrix like myself, who has years of experience and knowledge in this field.


This topic could be stretched far and wide (excuse the pun), discussing the use of strap on as a punishment or corrective measure, during sissy training and many other ways within Domination sessions, which it commonly is. But I'll end my blog on a pleasurable note for now, inviting you to pick my brains further in your own time, or better yet, schedule a Domination session with me in Glasgow or Edinburgh and let me introduce you to this side of BDSM.




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